| u feel like you are the only one interested in your | | | | him updated from time to time. This is a winning |
| wedding? Do you ask your groom for his opinion, | | | | situation, because you can get real help from your |
| only to hear, “Whatever you think is | | | | groom in some of the big areas, while letting go |
| fine”? Use these ideas to get your fiance | | | | of the frustrating expectation that he will be your |
| interested in the wedding, and to maybe even get | | | | right hand man for every aspect of the wedding |
| a little bit of help from him! | | | | planning process (of course if your fiance is willing |
| If we are honest about, wedding planning has | | | | to help with more, great!). |
| always been the purview of the bride and her | | | | Giving the groom genuine responsibilities can also |
| mother. These days, many of the old notions of | | | | help to get him off the couch and helping with |
| traditional roles for men and women have broken | | | | plans. Of course, this means relinquishing some of |
| down, and so brides naturally expect that their | | | | the control over the final product, so before you |
| guys will be as into the wedding as they are. This | | | | work too hard to get your fiance to help, be sure |
| can be a mistaken assumption, however. Before | | | | that it is worth it to you! After all, why should he |
| you get too worked up over your fiance's lack of | | | | put in a lot of effort if you are going to step in |
| interest in the details of planning your wedding, | | | | and overrule him at the last minute? Let him pick |
| ask yourself if he is generally interested in the | | | | the limo company and the groomsmen gifts, so |
| types of things which are part of a wedding like | | | | that he can take ownership of some of the |
| flowers, decorations, and fashions. If the answer | | | | wedding (actually, even the least involved groom |
| is not so much, then it should really be no surprise | | | | is obligated to pick out the gifts for his |
| that he is not super helpful when it comes to | | | | groomsmen). |
| designing the dream wedding. Whatever you do, | | | | On the big things where you could use some help |
| don't take it to mean that he is having cold feet; | | | | making a joint decision, you might find it easier to |
| a man can be very excited about the marriage | | | | get your fiance's help if you do a lot of the |
| without caring much at all about the party. | | | | legwork on your own. Instead of dragging him to |
| Now that we have reasonable expectations, it is | | | | a bridal show on a Saturday afternoon, go with a |
| time to get that groom interested and motivated! | | | | friend and narrow it down to a few top vendors. |
| Playing to his areas of interest and expertise will | | | | Then have you fiance come with you to meet |
| help to get him more involved. As most women | | | | with caterers or go see wedding bands play. A |
| have noticed, even the most disinterested groom | | | | final tip is to break up wedding stuff with regular |
| will find time to show up for the menu sampling | | | | couple's activities. One of the top complaints that |
| and cake tasting appointments! Instead of trying | | | | many grooms have is how all-consuming wedding |
| to get his opinion in areas where he may truly | | | | planning can become for the bride. Try to give |
| have no preference (like the flowers or | | | | him a break from the planning, and maybe you |
| invitations), get him to help with the parts of the | | | | will get a more enthusiastic participant. And if all |
| wedding which do appeal to him, like the food and | | | | else fails, fall back on the old standby and plan the |
| the music. Let the other stuff go and just keep | | | | wedding with your mother! |